Ready for our go-to masterclass on one of the most overlooked (but absolutely essential) parts of intimacy?
We’re bringing back one of our most downloaded episodes of all time — and trust us, it’s worth a re-listen (or a first-time bender if you’re new around here).
Foreplay — the most misunderstood, rushed-through, and skipped-over part of sex. But here’s the truth: foreplay isn’t optional. It’s not just a warm-up. It’s the whole damn vibe.
In this episode, we’re breaking down the 5 biggest mistakes couples make when it comes to foreplay — and how to turn things around so it actually feels good (for both of you).
Here’s what we’re diving into:
- Why “just get to the point” is killing the vibe
- What makes receiving foreplay so hard (especially for women — hi, it’s not your fault)
- The most common foreplay ruts we all fall into
- How to make foreplay fun again — not forced, awkward, or performative
- A mindset shift that will change how you think about sex forever
Whether you’re feeling stuck, unsure what your partner wants, or just ready for a heck of a lot more pleasure… this episode is your permission slip.
Links & Resources:
The Ultimate Foreplay Guides — get the Foreplay Bonus Package (worth over $250!) FREE when you grab one or both before May 14!
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