In this episode, we’re giving you a realistic, 4-week plan to help you and your partner get out of that relationship rut — even if you’re super busy, overwhelmed, or feeling disconnected.
No grand gestures. No impossible checklists.
Just simple, thoughtful actions you can start this week to feel closer again — emotionally and physically.
Here’s what we’re covering:
- The difference between a rut and a red flag
- How we define “realistic” connection (especially if you’ve got zero bandwidth)
- A step-by-step, week-by-week game plan you can follow
- Specific daily, midweek, and weekend actions to help you reconnect
- Why it’s okay to not feel fireworks right away — and what to focus on instead
- A challenge to get started right now
Whether you’ve been together 2 years or 20, this plan can help you feel like a team again — without adding more stress to your plate.
Links & Resources:
- 4-Week Relationship Reset PDF — Your Companion Workbook for EPISODE 208: Stuck In A Relationship Rut? Here’s Your 4-Week Fix
- The Art of Initiation — your guide to making initiation feel easier, sexier, and more satisfying
- Deeper Membership — full access to our relationship toolkit, core courses, live monthly sessions, and more
- Turn Me On: Your Initiation Style Guide — a free guide to discover your unique initiation style (and how to use it!)
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