Ask a sex therapist is back!
Have you ever Googled something about sex and then immediately deleted your search history?
In this week’s episode, Vanessa (a sex therapist with 20+ years of experience) and Xander (her ever-curious, regular dude husband) answer your most personal, pressing, wait-am-I-the-only-one? questions about sex, intimacy, and everything in between
Here’s what we’re diving into:
- Is it weird if my partner and I don’t kiss during sex? (Pretty Woman, anyone?)
- What exactly is pegging?
- Is it normal for other things to be “better than sex”?
- Can using a penis pump have consequences?
- Should you get a vasectomy? (Xander’s in the club!)
- Postpartum sex — what are men really thinking?
- Can responsive/spontaneous desire be taught? Like can you switch your type?
Whether you’re questioning the little things (like nose-picking) or the big things (like being completely ignored emotionally or sexually), this episode is here to help you figure out your next move.
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