This week’s episode is a little spooky, a little silly, and a whole lot of sexy.

Since Halloween is tomorrow, we’re bringing you a “Trick or Treat: Smash or Pass” edition of Pillow Talks. We’re running through a list of playful, sometimes weird, and definitely conversation-starting ideas for you and your partner to try in the bedroom (or… maybe not).

From holding water in your mouth during a BJ to wrapping your partner up like a mummy to switching positions every 60 seconds like it’s a HIIT workout… nothing is off-limits in this one.

Some ideas are pure gold, some are questionable at best, and a few? Let’s just say they’re better left in the graveyard of “good intentions.”

In this episode, you’ll hear:

• The spookiest sex trends we’ve ever been dared to try
• Which ones are worth a “smash” and which deserve a hard “pass”
• Why experimentation keeps things exciting — even if it’s a total fail
• How to decide what’s a hard pass vs. worth a try
• Why laughter and curiosity are the sexiest ingredients of all
• A few ideas that might just become your new Halloween tradition

If your sex life could use a little more fun (and a few more giggles), this one’s your invitation to play.

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You’ll get:

• Expert-backed techniques for better pleasure (solo and together)
• Real-life tips to improve communication and confidence
• Step-by-step guides to explore what really turns you on

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