Only 36% of our audience says they’ve tried mutual masturbation.
Which means most of you are missing out on one of the most erotic, intimate, and surprisingly easy things you can do with your partner.
It sounds intimidating. Maybe even a little awkward. But here’s the thing: it doesn’t have to be.
In this episode, we’re breaking down what mutual masturbation actually is, why it’s so hot, and exactly how to try it for the first time (even if the idea makes you nervous).
In this episode, you’ll hear:
- Why mutual masturbation is one of the best ways to learn what your partner actually likes
- How being “on display” for each other can be surprisingly sexy
- Simple, low-pressure ways to bring it up without making it weird
- What to do if you feel shy (hint: a single candle goes a long way)
- Creative ways to level it up once you’re comfortable
- How mutual masturbation can help you overcome shame around self-pleasure
- Why this can be a game-changer for orgasming with your partner
You don’t have to be adventurous or fearless to try this. You just have to be a little curious.
And this episode will give you everything you need to get started.
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The Ultimate Foreplay Guides are Vanessa and Xander’s step-by-step guides to expertly pleasuring your partner, with detailed techniques, animated GIFs, and audio walkthroughs.
- Over 100 unique techniques for fingering, oral, hand jobs, and blow jobs
- Beautiful animated illustrations so you know exactly what to do
- Written and audio versions of both guides
- Inclusive language and visuals, because everyone deserves great pleasure
Whether you want to build confidence, learn something new, or just blow your partner’s mind tonight, this is where to start.
Check out The Ultimate Foreplay Guides
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