Let’s talk about doggy style.

It’s one of the most popular positions out there. It can feel intense, wild, and incredibly hot.

But it also comes with a lot of questions. Is it supposed to slip out that much? Why does it feel too deep? What if you queef? What about the… view?

Yeah. We’re going there.

In this episode, we’re covering everything you need to know about doggy style. How to get into position, how to move, how to adjust the angle for more pleasure (or less pain), and how to actually feel confident doing it.

Plus, we’re answering your real questions from Instagram and sharing some of our favorite variations to try.

In this episode, you’ll hear:

• Why doggy is one of the best positions for clitoral stimulation (and how to make the most of it)
• Simple angle and arm adjustments that completely change how it feels
• What to do when it feels too deep or uncomfortable
• How to handle the queefing, the slipping out, and the self-consciousness
• Why this position is actually great for feeling less shy about touching yourself
• Variations like standing doggy, lying doggy, and cowboy doggy that keep things fresh
• Answers to your most-asked (and most awkward) doggy style questions from Instagram

Whether doggy is your go-to or you’ve been avoiding it, this episode will help you feel way more confident the next time you try it.

Want to explore more positions together?

Ultimate Sex Positions is our illustrated guide to 42 sex positions with step-by-step instructions, movement guidance, and variations for real bodies.

• Discover positions that change the energy of sex, from slow and romantic to intense and wild
• Get clear instructions on how to get into position and how to actually move
• Includes adjustments for height differences, curves, bellies, pregnancy, and flexibility
• No acrobatics required. Just curiosity and a willing partner.

Most couples rotate between 2 or 3 positions. This guide helps you break out of that loop and find new favorites.

Check out Ultimate Sex Positions

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