We polled our audience of over 1.2 million, and the women told us what they really think.
So we’re back with Part 3 of What Do Women Really Think About…?, giving you the honest answers women don’t always say out loud.
From the mental load to mirror selfies, nothing’s off limits.
In this episode, you’ll hear:
- Whether women actually want a “book boyfriend,” or if that fantasy is better left on the page?
- The real deal on mental load: is it running in the background every single day?
- Cum on the face: hot, not, or total depends? We give you the honest answer.
- Dick pics and mirror selfies: what reads as sexy vs what gets an instant delete?
- Blowjobs before a shower: the candid take you’ve been too shy to ask about.
- Why women open up to their friends about their sex lives so freely?
- Getting finished with hands or fingers: thoughtful move, or last-ditch effort?
Here’s the thing: the questions that feel embarrassing to ask are usually the ones everyone else is secretly wondering too. You’re not weird for being curious. You’re just paying attention.
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- Clear, no-guesswork techniques for fingering, oral, handjobs, and blow jobs.
- Separate guides for vulvas and penises, so you know exactly what to do.
- Built to take you from unsure to genuinely confident.
- Perfect if today’s questions left you wanting to level up.
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