It’s Xander’s birthday! And this week for our Ask Us Anything episode, we decided to answer some of your personal questions!
This one really pulls back the curtain on us as a couple. Ready for honest reactions, beyond real talk, and more than a little oversharing?
In this episode, you’ll hear:
- Whether we’ve ever set foot in a swingers or sex club
- If we’re starting an Only Fans
- Is it weird that our parents know intimate details about our sex lives because of what we do
- Our honest answers about giving each other the Ick
- Who really initiates more between the two of us
- Our favorite time of day for sex, and the reasoning behind it
- How we handle the creeps who show up in our comments
- The single position we’d choose if we had to pick just one forever
At the end of the day, we’re two people figuring out long-term love, running a business, and life together… while keeping intimacy our priority. Thanks for being on the ride with us.
It’s Xander’s birthday, and the gift is going to you
Xander is turning 41 and three of our most-loved guides and courses are $41 each, this weekend only!
- The Ultimate Foreplay Guides (normally $69), over 100 hand and mouth techniques shown step by step
- save $28 on foreplay
- Ultimate Sex Positions (normally $97, save ), 42 illustrated positions with how to get in, how to move, and what each one is good for
- save $56 on positions
- The Art of Initiation (normally $89), the six ways people want to be invited into sex, so reaching for each other feels exciting again
- save $48 on initiation
Grab one, or add the others for $41 each at checkout.
The Birthday Suit Sale ends Sunday, July 12 at 11:59pm PT, then it’s back to full price.
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