It’s time for another episode of What Do Men Really Think About… and Xander’s back in the hot seat to answer your burning questions about preferences, fantasies, the death grip, and how to give better feedback in bed.
Plus, we’re giving you questions to share with your partner to help you get on the same page and build your goals for your sex life!
In this episode, you’ll hear:
- Do men actually prefer rough sex?
- The most misunderstood thing about men and sex
- How to use the 5 to 10 minutes right after sex for more connection
- Do men really want feedback in bed?
- Reverse cowgirl, the view, and the butthole anxiety
- How men really feel about discharge and everything else your body does during sex
- Do men get upset when you need a vibrator to orgasm?
- A round of quick fire preference questions to take home and ask your partner tonight
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