It’s time for another round of Reasonable or Ridiculous, where we take real life couple disagreements our community members just can’t settle and play referee.
In this episode, you’ll hear:
- Can you ask your partner to start initiating again after you spent years shutting them down?
- A monthly quota for sex: reasonable or red flag?
- Oral every single time: too much to ask or not a big deal?
- The blowjob stereotype most women believe, and what men actually told us in our foreplay survey
- Asking your partner to stop saying a word that gives you the ick, without shutting down the dirty talk entirely
- How to admit you’ve hated something in bed for years without making your partner feel terrible
- Is waking your partner up because you can’t sleep crossing a line?
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