The Sex Act You Should Be Doing – But Probably Aren’t

June 30,2022

Today’s episode is about one of the most underrated sex acts that you’re probably not doing… mutual masturbation!

Even if your face is already beet red, we’re going to do our best to convince you why masturbation isn’t something you should do alone or in secret.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

Here’s a glance at this episode:

[6:49] The strong feedback we got from Instagram.

[8:10] How Purity Culture puts masturbation in a shame bubble.

[9:50] How to normalize the taboo feelings of masturbation.

[11:11] The benefits of Mutual Masturbation.

[12:38] The ultimate rut buster.

[13:24] How to give it to them the way they like 😉

[15:48] The surprising ways this act can be so intimate

[18:41] Why talking about sex is 100% necessary in a long-term relationship.

[19:33] Sexy ways to initiate mutual masturbation.

[21:38] The Dream Scheme.

[24:30] A mutual masturbation marketing issue.

[27:34] Addressing the awkward.

[30:31] Ways to ease in.

[35:35] Our question for you!

[36:35] Listener Question #1: I want to try it, but I lay on my stomach when I masturbate and I’m worried that isn’t sexy.

[40:08] Listener Question #2: Does phone sex or facetime sex count?

[41:26] Listener Question #3: Are you supposed to coordinate simultaneous orgasms?

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I'm Vanessa Marin, a sex therapist and writer specializing in helping you have more fun in the bedroom.

I have bachelor’s degrees in human sexuality and sociology from Brown University, and a master’s degree in counseling psychology from the California Institute of Integral Studies. I’m also a licensed psychotherapist. I’ve been working in the sex therapy field since 2002 and have been featured by The New York Times, O: The Oprah Magazine, Real Simple, and many more.

If you’re interested in improving your sex life, you can work with me via my online courses or personal coaching sessions. I look forward to supporting you in creating the sex life you’ve always wanted!