Putting The O Back In Mom: Reigniting Your Sex Life After Kids

July 21, 2022


Are you struggling to have a great sex life now that you’re a mom?

As women, we wear so many hats and have so many identities. We’re wives, girlfriends, daughters, sisters, friends, and mothers. But what happens when these identities feel like they’re in conflict with one another?

A whopping 91% of our Instagram followers said their sex life got harder after kids. We heard things like, “It’s hard to feel confident in my new body,” “Everyone always needs something, and I’m tired of giving,” and, “I’m just EXHAUSTED!”

In this episode, we’re here to give you practical tips to creating the sex life you deserve!

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • How to talk to your partner about hot-button issues like mental load and being touched out
  • The connection between emotional and physical intimacy
  • How to reconnect with yourself – even if you feel like a stranger to yourself, or a shell of your formerly vibrant self.

Here’s a glance at this episode:

[3:07] A small sampling of the MANY responses from our Instagram audience

[7:03] Milfs, Dilfs, and Pilfs!

[8:45] Just the tip: the first of our 5 tips to reconnect with your sexuality

[13:31] Teamwork makes the dream work! Alternately: Choreplay

[17:46] Pro tip from Xander to his fellow man: asking “how can I help?” isn’t actually helpful

[20:41] How to give your partner an offer they can’t refuse

[25:15] Busting the myths that keep us from being our happiest selves

[27:40] What happens when someone else owns your nipples?

[30:16] Your heart and your vagina are twin flames

[34:10] The not-so-secret-secret about men and their emotions

[36:15] Listener Question #1: When my partner initiates it doesn’t feel sexy, it just feels like unwanted pressure to perform for them. How do I reframe this mindset?

[37:36] Listener Question #2: I just feel like a different person, like the new me and the old me have not ever met.

[39:15] Listener Question #3: My husband loves playing with my breasts, but I hate it when I am breastfeeding. How to make him understand?

Links & resources

Rediscovering Us: Sex And Intimacy For Parents

Please note that this course was previously named MILFs, DILFs, and PILFs, so you may hear us refer to the course by that name in the episode. Don’t worry, though — it’s only the name

Mental Load

Body Love Instagram Highlights

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