How To Keep Stress Low And Pleasure High When You’re Trying To Conceive

September 22, 2022

Most couples believe that trying to get pregnant will be one of the sexiest, most intimate periods of their relationship. But if you don’t get pregnant right away, things can quickly take a turn – worrying that something is wrong, fear that it will never happen, the medical appointments, the pressure, the schedules…

With all that stress, it’s no wonder that your sex life can really suffer while trying to conceive.

Today we’re sharing 5 ways to protect your relationship during your TTC journey. It’s a heavy topic, but we’ll try to make you laugh along the way.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • Our own personal fertility history
  • How to tackle this as a team
  • Ways to give yourselves and each other a little grace

Here’s a glance at this episode:

[2:35] A story from one of our readers

[6:03] Why not every tip will apply to your unique situation

[7:00] Vanessa shares her truth

[16:11] Tip #1: 1 in 8 couples is not a small number

[20:28] Tip #2: Let’s talk about mental load

[25:23] Xander gets real with the guys/non-birthing partners

[30:26] Tip #3: Performance issues, pressure, and veto power

[36:28] Reader Question: PTSD from infertility treatments

[38:57] Tip #4: Let a little spice in!

[47:55] Tip #5: Keeping something for yourselves

[52:48] Rapid-fire success tips from the community

[57:37] The best long-term investment that you can make

Links & resources

Foreplay guides

Mental Load Workbook

Dirty Talk

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