How To Keep Stress Low And Pleasure High When You’re Trying To Conceive

September 22,2022

Most couples believe that trying to get pregnant will be one of the sexiest, most intimate periods of their relationship. But if you don’t get pregnant right away, things can quickly take a turn – worrying that something is wrong, fear that it will never happen, the medical appointments, the pressure, the schedules…

With all that stress, it’s no wonder that your sex life can really suffer while trying to conceive.

Today we’re sharing 5 ways to protect your relationship during your TTC journey. It’s a heavy topic, but we’ll try to make you laugh along the way.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

Here’s a glance at this episode:

[2:35] A story from one of our readers

[6:03] Why not every tip will apply to your unique situation

[7:00] Vanessa shares her truth

[16:11] Tip #1: 1 in 8 couples is not a small number

[20:28] Tip #2: Let’s talk about mental load

[25:23] Xander gets real with the guys/non-birthing partners

[30:26] Tip #3: Performance issues, pressure, and veto power

[36:28] Reader Question: PTSD from infertility treatments

[38:57] Tip #4: Let a little spice in!

[47:55] Tip #5: Keeping something for yourselves

[52:48] Rapid-fire success tips from the community

[57:37] The best long-term investment that you can make

Links & resources

Foreplay guides

Mental Load Workbook

Dirty Talk

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I'm Vanessa Marin, a sex therapist and writer specializing in helping you have more fun in the bedroom.

I have bachelor’s degrees in human sexuality and sociology from Brown University, and a master’s degree in counseling psychology from the California Institute of Integral Studies. I’m also a licensed psychotherapist. I’ve been working in the sex therapy field since 2002 and have been featured by The New York Times, O: The Oprah Magazine, Real Simple, and many more.

If you’re interested in improving your sex life, you can work with me via my online courses or personal coaching sessions. I look forward to supporting you in creating the sex life you’ve always wanted!