Ask Us Anything Part 3: Extra Spicy Edition

September 29, 2022


You saw the question box. You dug deep and swung for the fences. Now buckle up, because it is our turn at bat and we are gonna get SPICY in this episode!

That’s right, it’s time for “Ask Us Anything”- extra spicy edition 🔥

On Instagram we asked you to challenge us with your most personal questions, and boy did you deliver! Our team gave us a list of questions, and we sat down to record without discussing any of our answers first.

We really go there, deep diving into our dating history, favorite positions, fantasies, burst ear drums, and more. It’s a roller coaster of emotions as we get vulnerable, admit some hard truths, and reveal some things we have never said to each other, much less on air.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • All the things we still disagree on
  • How we both identify sexually
  • If our opinions have changed about having kids

Here’s a glance at this episode:

[10:00] “Most times that you have had sex in one day?”

[12:38] “Has Vanessa ever slept with a friend of Xander’s before dating?”

[15:36] “What is your most used sex position?”

[17:15] The fear of losing a hard on

[21:47] “Who initiates more often?”

[28:31 ”Hottest place that you’ve had sex?”

[31:23] The question EVERYONE has been dying to know

[37:36] “Do you regularly have anal sex?”

[38:56] How to build a sex room

[42:46] “Who’s louder?”

[47:45] “Have you tried all the things/advice in the guides?”

[50:11] The return of the milk man

[52:40] This last question is a doozy!

Links & resources

Sex Talks Preorder Page

Episode 13: How To Handle Rejection When Your Partner Says

No To Sex

Sex Positions Playbook

Butt Stuff

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