Ever wondered why the man in your life is so emotionally reserved? Ever been frustrated by how unwilling he seems to be to talk about his feelings?

You try to work though an issue in your relationship, but he’s stone-faced and tight-lipped, with nothing to add to the conversation. Or worse, after holding all the feelings in for so long, he has a huge overreaction of epic proportions that leaves you both wondering, “What the hell was that?”

You’re not the only one who wishes things would change. We asked the men of our Instagram audience if they wish they could be more emotionally intelligent, and 74% said yes.

In this episode, we explain why emotional intelligence remains so elusive for men and what can be done about it. Xander shares some of the emotional skeletons in his closet, how he was able to develop a healthier relationship with his emotions, and how other men can too. If you’ve never listened to an episode of Pillow Talks together, this is the one!

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• The definition of emotional intelligence
• Why men have it SO much harder than most of us realize
• Practical tips for men who want to be more emotionally intelligent

Here’s a glance at this episode:

[4:52] Emotional intelligence = show and tell, not store and ignore

[9:47] Are men really less emotional than women?

[13:21] The Strong, Silent Type, and other myths men are taught

[22:39] “Big boys don’t cry”

[29:47] “I don’t ever want to owe anyone anything EVER”

[31:55] Anger, sex and the passion of a true fan

[32:51] Dissection of suppression

[40:04] “I’m not that kind of person. I’m cool, calm, and collected”

[46:34] Emotional manipulation – both intentional and accidental

[51:40] You don’t wanna live like this anymore, so here’s what you need to do!

[55:18] The two little words your partner needs to hear from you

[57:37] The feelings wheel (give her a Google 😘 )

[1:01:01] Get into the sensation

[1:04:25] The good news!

[1:05:36] Really effective tips for partners

Links & resources

Pillow Talks Episode 75: Am I Being Unreasonable?

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