Sex Talks: Sharing All The Secrets Behind Writing Our First Book

January 19, 2023


If you’ve been following us for a bit, you probably know that we have a book, Sex Talks: The Five Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life, coming out February 7th with Simon & Schuster. We’re so excited for you to get your hands on this book, and bring more connection, pleasure, and fun into the bedroom! But do you want to know the real story behind the book?

In this episode, we’re pulling back the curtains on what it really means to write a book, get it published, and then get it to your audience. There were moments that shocked us, some that terrified us, and some that completely changed the way we see our business. Join us as we break down the numbers, lay out the timeline, and explain just how much of a village it truly takes to publish a book. By the time you finish with this episode, there won’t be anything left to do but click the link to preorder!

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • All about the inception of Sex Talks
  • The ins and outs of how a book actually gets published
  • All of the wonderful things we have in store for you if you preorder (including a brand new item!)

Here’s a glance at this episode:

[2:39] We wrote a book!

[8:34] The Wayback Machine – Going back to where it all started in 1984

[12:10] Visions in 2020 – One of the worst years in our life

[15:16] Adventures in Book Proposals – Richelle Fredson is worth every freaking penny

[21:26] 16 Pillow Talks – The many different layers and iterations of one book before it’s done

[25:22] Just A Regular Dude – How we brought Xander into the process

[28:05] Pick Me! – Shopping the big 5 publishing houses

[32:50] Advances and Royalties – The money breakdown that shocked us

[36:40] The (Impossible) Big Idea – Turning 16 conversations into 5

[44:36] The Oh Crap Moment – Time to actually write the book in 4 months

[48:05] Slight Nervous Breakdown – The editing process from the perspective of a perfectionist

[54:00] Color, Size, and Shape – The complications of design choices both inside and out

[59:16] Friends in High Places – Shoutout to the incredible John Gottman

[1:01:17] 35 Sessions – Audiobook Fantasy vs Reality

[1:09:19] The Finish Line – Publicity bookings, pre-sales, and investing in ourselves

[1:11:25] The Offer – Our pre-order gift bundle that is worth over $200!!!

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