How To Decide If You Should Have Kids Or Not. And Are We Still Child Free By Choice?

January 26, 2023


When we revealed in Episode 37 that we’re child free by choice, it became the most popular episode in Pillow Talks’ history, hands down. Talking about it publicly was challenging, emotional, and the most intimate we’ve ever been with our audience… until now.

After listening to the episode, so many of you reached out to share that you’re struggling with whether or not to have kids. You’re having a hard time identifying your own desires under all the layers of pressure and expectation. In this episode, you’ll find a roadmap to guide you through this weighty, personal decision process, along with some great advice from those in our audience who have been on either side of the fence. Whichever way you go, we’re here to help make sure it’s the right choice for YOU.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • Where we stand on the topic now
  • 10 tips for people who are torn on the idea of parenthood
  • Advice from both parents and those that are child free

Here’s a glance at this episode:

[4:09] We definitely need your support

[10:46] Permission to choose to be child free

[13:59] We knew it would come, but the cruelty was still hard

[18:32] The moments that tear at our heartstrings

[23:15] The math ain’t mathing (and a lovely intermission)

[27:19] Tip #1 – Acknowledgment of agency

[29:39] Tip #2 – Blocking the haters and promoters

[30:38] Tip #3 – Making space for the hard conversations

[35:43] Tip #4 – There will be commentary

[40:23] Tip #5 – Why?

[42:52] Tip #6 – Thank goodness for parent friends

[48:44] Tip #7 – “Are we okay?”

[52:07] Tip #8 – The fear of regret

[56:00] Tip #9 – There’s always a trade

[57:54] Tip #10 – Keep it going

[58:39] The number 1 tip from parents

[1:02:21] More parental tips to consider

[1:05:55] Tips from people that choose to be child free

Links & resources

Sex Talks

Episode 37 – The Truth About Why We’re Child Free

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