Are You Up For This Challenge? (Plus PRIZES)

May 21,2019

Last week, I shared a video with you of my mom and I talking about orgasm for the very first time.

This week, I want to challenge you to talk about female orgasm. And I’m going to reward you for it!

It is so important that we normalize female orgasm, and make it a topic that we can talk about as freely as we talk about where we want to go on our next vacation (Chile!) or what we’d like to eat for dinner (tacos!).

The first step to changing how we talk about female orgasm as a society is changing how we talk about it with those closest to us.

So, if you’re a woman, are you up for having a conversation with another woman – a friend or family member about female orgasm?

(Guys: we’ll have something for you later about how to bring up orgasm. For now, this is about women feeling more comfortable talking about orgasm.)

Even if orgasm isn’t a challenge for you, personally, having these kinds of conversations is a way that you can help other women feel less alone, and create a world where this isn’t a taboo topic.

I know that what I’m asking you to do is vulnerable, so I want to support you by giving you specific ideas and prompts to get you started!

Ways to initiate the conversation:

Possible questions to ask:

If you feel open to asking more personal questions, here are some options. (Remind your loved one that they can always “pass” on a specific question if they don’t want to answer.):

I know that these are vulnerable conversations, so I also wanted to do something extra special to reward you for your bravery…

We’re holding a contest! With prizes!

Here’s how it works:

(A few important notes: Your information will be kept strictly confidential. Winners will be notified privately. Due to customs restrictions, the toys are only available to people living in the U.S. If you win and you live abroad, we’ll arrange a different prize!)

I’m going to keep this mysterious for the time being, but let’s just say that now is a really good time to be following me on Instagram or Facebook, if you’re not already…


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I'm Vanessa Marin, a sex therapist and writer specializing in helping you have more fun in the bedroom.

I have bachelor’s degrees in human sexuality and sociology from Brown University, and a master’s degree in counseling psychology from the California Institute of Integral Studies. I’m also a licensed psychotherapist. I’ve been working in the sex therapy field since 2002 and have been featured by The New York Times, O: The Oprah Magazine, Real Simple, and many more.

If you’re interested in improving your sex life, you can work with me via my online courses or personal coaching sessions. I look forward to supporting you in creating the sex life you’ve always wanted!