Great news – I’ve signed on to be a regular contributor to Bustle and XoJane! I love writing, and I’m thrilled to be able to work with these two amazing websites. I’ll post links to future articles here, but please sign up below to ensure you get notified when a new post comes out!
My first Bustle column went live yesterday. It’s a reader Q&A, and it’s titled, “How Do I Ask To Be Dominated? A 5-Step Guide To Making Your Fantasy Happen.” One of the reasons I’m so excited to be writing more regularly is that I’m tired of generic, untested sex advice like “spice it up” and “try new things.” That kind of input just isn’t useful! I like to get into step-by-step details of exactly how and what to do, and I base my suggestions off of years of training and actual experience with clients. I aim to give you particular words to use, specific techniques to try out, and a heads-up about common pitfalls.
Please pop on over to Bustle to read the full article, but here are the 5 steps:
- Make the fantasy clear to yourself
- Bring it up again
- Acknowledge the pressure
- Reinforce that this isn’t about being bored
- Pick a safe word, no matter how safe you’re playing it