How to get your sex life back after having kids

December 24,2020

*Important note:* At the beginning of this video, we repeated a dumb old joke about how you need to have sex to make a baby. As someone pointed out to us, this joke is, “reductive, heteronormative, and potentially really hurtful to people who have struggled with infertility or who have welcomed children into their families through non-traditional ways.” Xander’s sister is adopted and we have good friends who have struggled with infertility. We should have been much more careful with our words. We’re really sorry.

Did having a kid kill your sex life?

It’s funny because you need to have sex in order to have a baby. But actually having a baby often leads your sex life to disappear.

There are SO many dynamics that come into play after having a kid. You have less alone time, more stress, less sleep, a different relationship with your body, and a ton of new responsibilities. 

Most parents really struggle with how the heck to rebuild and maintain a healthy sex life after having kids.

There’s no shame in needing a bit of time and help to get your sex life back on track. 

And we are here to help!

Sex Life AFTER Kids – Have A Good Sex Life After Children

In this video, we reveal our top 10 tips for parents trying to get their sex lives back. 

If you’ve lost the passion in your relationship, you are DEFINITELY going to want to check this one out!


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I'm Vanessa Marin, a sex therapist and writer specializing in helping you have more fun in the bedroom.

I have bachelor’s degrees in human sexuality and sociology from Brown University, and a master’s degree in counseling psychology from the California Institute of Integral Studies. I’m also a licensed psychotherapist. I’ve been working in the sex therapy field since 2002 and have been featured by The New York Times, O: The Oprah Magazine, Real Simple, and many more.

If you’re interested in improving your sex life, you can work with me via my online courses or personal coaching sessions. I look forward to supporting you in creating the sex life you’ve always wanted!