Have you ever wanted a peek inside a man’s brain?
We’re back with Part 3 of one of our most talked-about episode series — answering all the burning, bizarre, and brutally honest questions you’ve always wanted to ask men.
This week, we’re diving into what men really think about everything from doggy style to smutty books to whether they actually want to be woken up with a BJ.
Here’s what we’re getting into:
- What are men actually looking at during doggy style?
- What do they think when they see a woman who’s prettier than their partner?
- Is it true they can literally… think about nothing?
- How do they feel about things like…
- Women aging, messy buns, leg hair, and more
- How do they stay so chill about daily life stuff (kid schedules, groceries, appointments)?
- What’s their take on sex toys and spicy books in the bedroom?
- What really keeps them engaged in a relationship?
This one is honest, funny, and surprisingly vulnerable. And of course, Xander’s not holding back.
Links & Resources:
What Do Men REALLY Think About…? Part 1
What Do Men REALLY Think About…? Part 2
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