This is the key to our happy relationship

December 24,2019

Today, Xander and I are back with 3 more of our favorite lessons that we’ve learned in 12 years together. 

We’re giving you a sneak peek at how we learned those lessons in our own relationship (often the hard way!), and specific tips for incorporating each lesson into your own relationship! 

Here’s what we’re covering in this week’s video:

Relationship Lesson #7 – Laughter is the best medicine

This sounds so simple, but it’s really powerful! 

In this week’s video, Xander and I will share how we make each other laugh, even in the challenging times. (You’ll learn our “Golly Gumdrops” secret!)

Relationship Lesson #8 – Be adventure buddies

Xander and I are both creatures of comfort. (Xander especially!) We like our routines, and we can be major homebodies.

But we also know that nudging ourselves and each other out of our comfort zones is what keeps us falling in love with each other!

In this week’s video, we have some practical tips for trying new things in your relationship. 

Relationship Lesson #9 – Make intimacy a priority, no matter what

You knew this one was coming, right??

A few months ago, we got ultra-personal and told you about the time when the passion really died in our relationship. Since then, we’ve made our sex life a priority.

We know how busy you are, and how challenging it can feel to make the time and find the energy for intimacy, so we’ve got you covered with some great advice!

Head on over here to watch this week’s video!


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I'm Vanessa Marin, a sex therapist and writer specializing in helping you have more fun in the bedroom.

I have bachelor’s degrees in human sexuality and sociology from Brown University, and a master’s degree in counseling psychology from the California Institute of Integral Studies. I’m also a licensed psychotherapist. I’ve been working in the sex therapy field since 2002 and have been featured by The New York Times, O: The Oprah Magazine, Real Simple, and many more.

If you’re interested in improving your sex life, you can work with me via my online courses or personal coaching sessions. I look forward to supporting you in creating the sex life you’ve always wanted!