Jealousy is one of the most difficult emotions to face, and it feels even trickier when it comes up in your romantic relationship. It’s such a common feeling to have, but it’s also so challenging to even acknowledge.

We asked our community to share what stirs up jealousy in their relationship. Four core themes emerged: work, friendships, sex, and attraction to others. We work through these real-life examples and give you a powerful toolkit for grappling with jealousy in your relationship.

Most importantly, you’ll learn to pay attention to what jealousy is really trying to tell you. After listening to this episode, you’ll feel empowered to face your feelings head on. And you might be surprised by what you learn when you do…

Here’s a glance at this episode:

[6:48] The complexities of jealousy

[8:35] The 3 big tips

[9:29] Our real life envy example

[12:09] Don’t miss the lesson

[14:23] You can feel it without acting out

[15:50] The jealousy Big 4

[16:19] “He follows tons of IG models”

[17:29] Passively browsing vs actively engaging

[21:37] “No time for me, but so much time for friends”

[26:37] Breaking down the source

[27:37] “I want kid-free partner time!”

[36:43] “His female friend is always coming up”

[38:56] Healthy boundaries have to come from a healthy place

[41:22] “When I see him laughing with other women”

[42:14] The positive side of jealousy

[45:01] “My partner was married before and I feel like an outsider”

[48:32] Flipping the perspective

[50:32] “I’m jealous of her toys”

[53:43] “Wandering eyes”

[57:25] R-e-s-p-e-c-t

[58:51] “He is jealous that I’m a Swiftie (and of all other women in my life)”

[1:00:58] “Why isn’t he jealous of ANYTHING?”

Links & resources

Challenge: The Sex Challenge

Challenge: The Connection Challenge

Course: Art Of Initiation

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