Ask Us Anything Part 2: MORE Of Your Burning Questions, Answered

June 02,2022

We were WRONG.

Well, Vanessa was. She thought there was no way our last Ask Us Anything episode would be popular, but it ended up being one of our most listened-to episodes!

So we decided to do a Part 2 with more of the most asked and most interesting personal questions we’ve gotten.

We’re talking about:

And so much more!

Here’s a glance at this episode:

[07:27] “What do you fight about?”

[13:01] Screwin’ the shit out of the water bottle lid

[14:25] “What was Xander’s reaction to finding out about Vanessa’s interest in sex therapy?”

[16:21] “Is there anything you won’t do sexually?”

[17:24] “Favorite place in the house to have sex?”

[19:26] “How has the intensity of entrepreneurship affected your relationship? How do you manage that work/life balance?”

[20:48] The main thing we have to focus on as co-workers

[22:37] How me manage work/life balance

[28:12] “Did you ever struggle with your sexual compatibility in the beginning?”

[29:45] Xander recounts our compatibility timeline

[30:34] “Do you have a morning routine?”

[32:01] “How often is sex the topic when you’re hanging out with friends?”

[33:04] “Do either of you go to individual therapy?”

[34:13] Vanessa gets REALLY honest about therapy

[35:23] “Tell us about living in Berlin!”

[39:41] “How is your house hunt going?”

[40:58] “What do your families think of your profession?”

[43:10] “Is there anything that you keep from us?”

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I'm Vanessa Marin, a sex therapist and writer specializing in helping you have more fun in the bedroom.

I have bachelor’s degrees in human sexuality and sociology from Brown University, and a master’s degree in counseling psychology from the California Institute of Integral Studies. I’m also a licensed psychotherapist. I’ve been working in the sex therapy field since 2002 and have been featured by The New York Times, O: The Oprah Magazine, Real Simple, and many more.

If you’re interested in improving your sex life, you can work with me via my online courses or personal coaching sessions. I look forward to supporting you in creating the sex life you’ve always wanted!