How Much Do You Really Want It? The Sex Drive Episode

November 4, 2022

Do you want a higher sex drive? Bet you said, “yes!” without thinking twice. 74% of our Instagram audience did. Most of us feel self-conscious about how rarely we desire sex, and believe that we’re supposed to have a stronger libido.

But if you’re really honest with yourself, do you truly want more desire? Only 8% of our Instagram audience said they’d do whatever it takes to have a higher sex drive. And we’ve found that whenever we offer sex drive resources to our community, very few people actually use them. (This episode contains a fascinating sneak peek at one of the biggest flops in our business!)

So what’s going on here? In this episode, we dive deep into the sex drive disconnect so many of us are struggling with. We’ll bust some of the biggest – and most damaging – sex drive myths, and give you the honest truth about libido. You’ll walk away with a deeper understanding of what you truly want, and a clear path on how to get there.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • The true meaning of desire
  • The ways you’re sabotaging your sex life
  • The REAL way to increase your sex drive (hint: supplements and pills don’t work)

Here’s a glance at this episode:

[7:01] You want a higher sex drive, but WHY?

[12:37] Thinking about the lengths you’d go to for an increase in libido

[14:31] Let’s talk about the middle-of-the-road effort

[17:18] The course that shocked us

[19:32] Most common sex drive roadblocks

[23:55] The definition of desire

[29:52] It’s ok to be fine with where you’re at right now

[33:40] The power of “won’t” vs “can’t”

[34:30] Don’t be afraid to say how you feel

[36:23] Taking the time to understand the motivation

[38:00] The science of libido

[40:04] Dissecting the ingredients of your life into what stays and what can go

[44:28] Xander reveals how he prioritizes his sex drive

[47:38] The missing ingredient = great sex!

Links & resources

Rediscovering Desire

Sex Drive Types

Foreplay Guides

Next Level Intercourse

Butt Stuff

Better, Hotter, More

Episode 73: Do You Ever Owe Sex To Your Partner

Survivor’s Guide

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