The thing Xander and I do every year that keeps our relationship so strong

March 03,2020

Do you and your partner have any romantic rituals?

I’m talking about something specific and special that the two of you do together on a regular basis.

All month long, I’ve been sharing with you ideas of ways to be romantic, and encouraging you to define romance in your own way.

Rituals are a way to take it to the next level!

For example, Xander and I had so much fun on our honeymoon that we decided one wasn’t enough.

Instead, we created a ritual where we take a trip for our anniversary every year.

Some years it’s a small trip (like up to wine country), other years it’s a big trip (we just did South Africa last year!), but it’s always a trip.

It has become one of our favorite ways to celebrate our relationship, and we both look forward to it every year. 

It always feels super special and personal, and gets more meaningful with each trip.

Another ritual we have is taking our two pugs, Winston and Maggie, on a walk together every single day.

It would be easy to think of walking the dogs as a chore that one of us is responsible for, but since we think of it as a ritual that we do together, it has become so much more enjoyable.

It’s our time to get some fresh air, clear our heads, talk about our days, and see new parts of our neighborhood.

So this week, I encourage you to make a new ritual in your relationship. 

What’s something that you and your partner could do together on a regular basis, that would feel special, celebratory, or romantic?

Here are some other ideas to get you going:

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I'm Vanessa Marin, a sex therapist and writer specializing in helping you have more fun in the bedroom.

I have bachelor’s degrees in human sexuality and sociology from Brown University, and a master’s degree in counseling psychology from the California Institute of Integral Studies. I’m also a licensed psychotherapist. I’ve been working in the sex therapy field since 2002 and have been featured by The New York Times, O: The Oprah Magazine, Real Simple, and many more.

If you’re interested in improving your sex life, you can work with me via my online courses or personal coaching sessions. I look forward to supporting you in creating the sex life you’ve always wanted!