Finishing School Covered In Cosmo! But They Get One Major Thing About Orgasm Wrong

August 30,2016

Recently, I appeared in Cosmopolitan’s podcast to talk about Finishing School, my online orgasm program for women. I had a lot of fun talking about my favorite topics with the hosts.

You can check out the podcast right here.

Finishing School was also written up in a Cosmo article (which you can check out here).

A quick point of contention though – I strongly disagree with point #1 in the article. Cosmo writes:

Some women… just never orgasm — period. “We did a big piece on this on Cosmopolitan.com a few years ago, called ‘The Orgasm Deficit’ that was talking about this issue,” Benson says. “One of the additional things we explore in the piece […] is that women who are with partners, maybe they can get off on their own, but never with their partner.” A survey published in the April 2015 issue of Cosmopolitan mirrored these findings: 8 percent of women between the ages of 25 and 29 reported having never had an orgasm, compared to 16 percent of 18- to 24-year-olds.

Notice what their survey results found – 8 percent of women between the ages of 25 and 29 reported never having an orgasm. Sure, you may not have had an orgasm yet, but that doesn’t mean you’ll never be able to have one.

There has been absolutely no scientific proof that there are some women who will never be able to have an orgasm.

As I’m quoted saying in the article, every woman needs to learn how to have an orgasm.

Marin cites “a belief that orgasm should just happen by itself” as a common thread among women who have difficulty climaxing. “A lot of women out there think that orgasm is like sneezing — your body just inherently knows how to do it and it just does it without any intervention,” Marin says. “Orgasm is like a skill. It’s something that you have to learn, you have to practice, you have to figure out how it works. […] If you’re having a hard time orgasming, it’s definitely not that anything is wrong with you or that you’ll never be able to orgasm, it’s just that you have to give yourself the opportunity to learn.”

Ready to get started on that adventure? Head on over here!

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I'm Vanessa Marin, a sex therapist and writer specializing in helping you have more fun in the bedroom.

I have bachelor’s degrees in human sexuality and sociology from Brown University, and a master’s degree in counseling psychology from the California Institute of Integral Studies. I’m also a licensed psychotherapist. I’ve been working in the sex therapy field since 2002 and have been featured by The New York Times, O: The Oprah Magazine, Real Simple, and many more.

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