June 30,2020

Happy Pride Month!

Although I think sexuality is something that should be celebrated all year, I’m glad that we take the month of June to honor all of the incredible diversity in sexual experience. 

There’s so much that I want to share with you in just one email, so I decided to do a resource round-up!

(Quick note – many of our community members are asking when we’re going to resume our usual sex and relationship content. Next week I’ll be back with a brand new topic for you!)

16 Queer Black Pioneers Who Made History

Last week I talked about how Black women pioneered the Body Positivity movement. 

Similarly, Black people and other people of color were also on the forefront of the gay right movements, but don’t often get the credit they deserve.

This list contains some extremely brave people whose names and stories you need to know. I did a research project on Marsha P. Johnson in college and fell in love with her story.

11 Young Activists Leading The Way For LGBTQ+ Equality

This is SUCH a cool list! It features kids as young as 11!!!

I’m particularly interested in checking out Emi Salida, who focuses on asexuality education. I get asked a lot of questions about asexuality, and I’m glad she’s teaching the younger generation about it. 

7 Trans POC Activists You Should Know

I’m snatching up Janet Mock’s autobiographies ASAP!

Organizations To Check Out And Support

National Center for Transgender Equality

Transgender Law Center

Trevor Project (Crisis intervention and suicide prevention)

GLSEN (Focuses on making schools safe for LGBTQ students)

The Okra Project (Focuses on eliminating food insecurity)

Audre Lorde Project (Community-based wellness)

LGBTQ Victory Fund (Focuses on electing openly LGBTQ people to all levels of government)

The National Queer and Trans Therapists of Color Network

Books, Documentaries, and Shows:

Paris Is Burning (Documentary about drag culture)

Gender Outlaw (Book by Trans activist Kate Bornstein. I got to meet her years ago and she’s incredible!)

Moonlight (Movie about gay Black men)

Gaycation (Documentary about LGBTQ travel)

Wow, No Thank You (Book by gay comedian Samantha Irby. All of her books are hilarious!)

Matt Shepard Is A Friend Of Mine (Documentary)

She’s Not There (The first book I ever read about transitioning)

Tig (Comedy special about gay comedian Tig Notaro)

How to Survive a Plague: The Story of How Activists and Scientists Tamed AIDS (Book)

Homie: Poems (Intersectional poetry)

Pose (TV show about drag culture)

On Earth We’re Briefly Gorgeous (Book. Currently on my “must read” list)

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I'm Vanessa Marin, a sex therapist and writer specializing in helping you have more fun in the bedroom.

I have bachelor’s degrees in human sexuality and sociology from Brown University, and a master’s degree in counseling psychology from the California Institute of Integral Studies. I’m also a licensed psychotherapist. I’ve been working in the sex therapy field since 2002 and have been featured by The New York Times, O: The Oprah Magazine, Real Simple, and many more.

If you’re interested in improving your sex life, you can work with me via my online courses or personal coaching sessions. I look forward to supporting you in creating the sex life you’ve always wanted!