Fantasies come in all different shapes and sizes. But since Halloween is right around the corner, I want to focus on one particular type of fantasy: role-playing.

If you’ve never role-played before, Halloween can be the perfect excuse to bring it up for the first time. If you’re shy or nervous about role-playing, the fact that you might already be getting into character for Halloween could make role-playing a lot easier.

Why You Should Role-Play

Let me back up a second and describe what role-playing is. As the name implies, it means playing a role in the bedroom (or elsewhere!). Becoming someone other than yourself.

Role-playing can be a lot of fun because it allows you to play with different personalities. If you’re usually very quiet or passive in the bedroom, you can role-play being bossy and dominant. If you usually take a playful, goofy approach to sex, you can role-play being serious and seductive.

Just like with any other type of fantasy, role-playing can be as vanilla or as kinky as you want it to be. Your role-play can be as simple as talking a little more than you usually do, or as complex as setting up an entire scene with props and costumes.

If you’re not sure who to role-play, check out this handy guide I put together for you!

Learn more about the Alter Ego Technique here.