You’ve learned so much this month! Here’s what to do next

September 03,2019

So where do we go from here?

All month long, you’ve been getting to know your sexual self better. You’ve assessed where you are with your relationship with sex. You’ve learned your Sex Personality type. You’ve learned your favorite things to do in the bedroom. You’ve learned how to set yourself up for success. (Sex-cess?)

Now what?

Well, my friend, the fun doesn’t end here! 

Your sex life is a project that you can and should actively work on for the rest of your life!

Because just like who you are as a person is constantly evolving, who you are as a sexual being is always evolving too! 

And just as we may want to keep working on being a more positive person or a more patient person, we can also set goals to be a more sexually self-aware person! 

So I’ve got a few ideas to help wrap up this month and keep up your momentum going forward.

Your Sexual Self-Discovery Kit

I’ve created a handy guide for you to summarize everything you’ve learned this month! This can be great to share with a partner, or to reflect back upon in a couple of months. 

If you’d like to access the Sexual Self-Discovery Kit, shoot us an email at [email protected] and we’ll send one your way!

Your next steps

Step 1

Let’s take a moment to think about your current strengths when it comes to your sex life. What are you feeling proud of at the moment?

(You can also click here to get a handy worksheet of all of the steps instead!)

Step 2

Now, let’s take a look at your current challenges when it comes to your sex life. What do you want to keep working on?

Step 3

Next, let’s take a look at what your sex life would look like if you didn’t have those challenges you listed in Step 2. 

For example, what would your sex life look like if you weren’t afraid of “failing”? What would your sex life look like if you weren’t ashamed of your body?

We want to get a sense of the possibilities in front of you!

Step 4

Finally, what action steps could you take to keep your momentum going? 

Here are some specific ideas to consider:


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I'm Vanessa Marin, a sex therapist and writer specializing in helping you have more fun in the bedroom.

I have bachelor’s degrees in human sexuality and sociology from Brown University, and a master’s degree in counseling psychology from the California Institute of Integral Studies. I’m also a licensed psychotherapist. I’ve been working in the sex therapy field since 2002 and have been featured by The New York Times, O: The Oprah Magazine, Real Simple, and many more.

If you’re interested in improving your sex life, you can work with me via my online courses or personal coaching sessions. I look forward to supporting you in creating the sex life you’ve always wanted!