The True Story Of How We Built A Sex Therapy Business

August 25,2022

You’ve asked us over email, Instagram, YouTube, everything short of a carrier pigeon… How the heck did we get into the sex therapy business? And do we manage working and living together every day as a married couple? The time has come for us to share all the details about our business, from how we started to where we are now.

You’ll hear about it all… Vanessa floundering to figure out her path. Why we moved to Berlin. Xander’s identity crisis. Our most embarrassing moments, and plenty of business “fails.” We get vulnerable about the good, the bad, and the ugly of the journey that took us from corporate hell to living out our dreams together.

And stick around to the end to be the first to hear what’s coming next!

In this episode, you’ll learn:

Here’s a glance at this episode:

[4:07] The moment we knew

[9:40] Finding the path less taken

[13:43] The universe was not exactly subtle

[17:53] “The Pleasure Principle” started it all

[25:05] Paying the price when it’s more rain than rainbows

[31:30] Becoming the Carrie Bradshaw of Bustle and switching gender roles

[34:39] Xander gets a taste of sex therapy

[39:40] Walking the walk of our dream company culture and values

[45:49] Shit gets real in the year 2020

[50:45] How we found the courage to share our personal life as a couple

[52:00] Breaking News: the current status of our business

[56:30] Does talking about sex all day make us not want to have sex with each other?

[1:00:00] Spoilers and Sneak Peaks

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I'm Vanessa Marin, a sex therapist and writer specializing in helping you have more fun in the bedroom.

I have bachelor’s degrees in human sexuality and sociology from Brown University, and a master’s degree in counseling psychology from the California Institute of Integral Studies. I’m also a licensed psychotherapist. I’ve been working in the sex therapy field since 2002 and have been featured by The New York Times, O: The Oprah Magazine, Real Simple, and many more.

If you’re interested in improving your sex life, you can work with me via my online courses or personal coaching sessions. I look forward to supporting you in creating the sex life you’ve always wanted!