Don’t Start 2019 Without Doing This For Your Relationship

January 02,2019

I know that the final week of the year always goes by in a blur. But don’t coast your way into 2019! You have an amazing opportunity here to set your relationship up so that 2019 is your best year yet.

The gifts your partner REALLY wants this year

All month, I’ve been sharing gifts your partner REALLY wants this holiday season.

(Click here for a reminder of gift #1, here for gift #2, and here for gift #3.)

The final gift that I want to share with you is the idea of creating relationship resolutions for 2019.

Most people set personal resolutions for the year, but very few people think about making relationship resolutions.

But setting goals for your relationship can be so powerful. It helps you work together as a team to keep growing and improving your relationship.

First, sit down with your partner and talk about how 2018 went for your relationship. Ask each other these questions:

Have one partner take notes as you have this conversation.

Next, take a look at your notes, and ask yourselves this question: “What specific actions can we take to prioritize each other and build a truly exceptional relationship in 2019?”

Write down any ideas that either of you come up with. Then, together, take a look at your list and pick around 3-5 relationship resolutions. You want the number to feel small enough to be manageable.

From your list, pick one thing that you can do in January, to start the year off with good momentum.

Write your list down and put it somewhere that you can both see, like next to your bathroom mirror or on your bedroom door.

Here are some ideas for potential relationship resolutions:

Xander and I are in the midst of picking our resolutions for 2019. Here are some of the things we thought of for our own relationship:


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I'm Vanessa Marin, a sex therapist and writer specializing in helping you have more fun in the bedroom.

I have bachelor’s degrees in human sexuality and sociology from Brown University, and a master’s degree in counseling psychology from the California Institute of Integral Studies. I’m also a licensed psychotherapist. I’ve been working in the sex therapy field since 2002 and have been featured by The New York Times, O: The Oprah Magazine, Real Simple, and many more.

If you’re interested in improving your sex life, you can work with me via my online courses or personal coaching sessions. I look forward to supporting you in creating the sex life you’ve always wanted!